Hey everyone…I no longer have an office but I am still willing to meet with you out in the community or your home. I am accepting cash only clients at this time. I have been working a lot lately and dealing with personal issues, and I have found that the grief has lessen a little each day. I still have days where I still want to scream and shout because she is gone, but mostly I just move on.

Until next time…


New Office in Lansing, MI

Hey everyone…I am now working at Professional Counselors of Lansing located at 913 W. Holmes Rd #B146, Lansing, MI 48910. I am going to try to post more and I am still working on my grief book and journal. If you would like to share your “Journey with Grief” please email me at darlacarmoneyllpc@gmail.com. I do have a release form you can fill out so i can share your story in my book. My book is going to show how everyone can grieve in their own ways, but there is some similarities.

I will be posting another blog soon…Don’t forget to follow me on here and also at


Until next time, breathe and focus on the present along with planning for the future.


Hey everyone. Sorry I have been MIA, but I am now back in Lansing, MI. I don’t have an office at this time, but I am willing to meet you someplace or come to your home for a counseling session. Please email me at darlacarmoneyllpc@gmail.com for more information.

Update for 2018

Sorry I have been MIA for a few had some personal issues come up. In November before Thanksgiving I lost my mother at the young age of 65. I have decided to close my private practice again for the foreseeable future. I have left Lansing and moved north leaving behind the last 20 years or so.

I figured a new and fresh start would help with my grief and allow me to heal. My plan is to still blog from Saginaw and I will be working on that soon.

Remember grief has no time limits or guidelines. Even almost 3 months since she left I still miss her eveeyday.

Thanks and keep watch for a new post in a couple of weeks.

Stress Management

Just about everyone has been stressed out at some point in their life.  Stress can have both positive and negative side effects on your body.  Some of the common responses to stress are listed below. Think about how stress affects you.

Aches and Pains*

  • Headache
  • Backache
  • Neck ache
  • Stomach ache
  • Tight muscles
  • Clenched jaw

Energy Level and Sleep*

  • Feeling tired without a good reason
  • Trouble sleeping


  • Anxiety
  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Helplessness
  • Out of control
  • Tense

Other Emotional Signs

  • Easily irritated
  • Impatient
  • Forgetful

*Some physical signs of stress may be caused by a medical condition or by medicines you take. If you aren’t sure what’s causing your physical symptoms, ask your doctor if stress might be the cause.

How Do You Respond?

When you are under stress, do any of these behaviors apply to you?

  • I eat to calm down.
  • I speak and eat very fast.
  • I drink alcohol or smoke to calm down.
  • I rush around but do not get much done.
  • I work too much.
  • I delay doing the things I need to do.
  • I sleep too little, too much or both.
  • I slow down.
  • I try to do too many things at once.

Here are answers to some frequently asked questions about stress.

What’s the link between chronic stress and heart disease?  Stress sets off a chain of events. First, you have a stressful situation that’s usually upsetting but not harmful. The body reacts to it by releasing a hormone, adrenaline, that temporarily causes your breathing and heart rate to speed up and your blood pressure to rise. These physical reactions prepare you to deal with the situation by confronting it or by running away from it — the “fight or flight” response. When stress is constant (chronic), your body remains in high gear off and on for days or weeks at a time. The link between chronic or extreme stress and heart disease is not clear.

Does chronic stress cause high blood pressure?  Chronic stress has not been shown to directly cause high blood pressure, but it can lead to unhealthy lifestyle choices that are associated with high blood pressure. While the exact causes of high blood pressure are unknown, contributing factors include being overweight, eating too much sodium (salt), lack of physical activity and drinking too much alcohol. Chronic stress can take a physical toll on you. It can weaken your immune system and cause uncomfortable physical symptoms like headache and stomach problems.

Can medicines help me lower my stress level?  Medicines are helpful for many things, but usually not for stress. Some people take tranquilizers to calm them down immediately, but it’s far better in the long term to learn to manage your stress through relaxation or stress management techniques. Be careful not to confuse stress with anxiety. If you suffer from anxiety, speak with your doctor a treatment or management plan including whether you need medication.

How do I know if I need a stress management class?  Stress management classes can help you learn to handle your stress, especially if you have a “Type A” personality (constantly rushing, angry, hostile or competitive) or if your stress is nonstop. Stress management classes can be found at community colleges, rehab programs, in hospitals or by calling a therapist in your community. Classes normally last for 10 to 12 weeks and offer many techniques to help you.

Here are some tips that can help with the stress:

  1. Meditate.  This can also help anxiety and depression.
  2. Breathe deeply.  Close your eyes, sit up straight and focus on nothing but breathing deeply.
  3. Reach out.  In your time of need your close friends and family may be able to help you.
  4. Exercise.
  5. Laugh.
  6. Listen to music.
  7. Be grateful.
  8. Accept that you can’t control everything.
  9. Stay Positive.
  10. Do something fun.

If you or someone you know is dealing with stress and these tips do not help please seek professional help.  You can email me at darlacarmoneyllpc@gmail.com for an appointment.

Surviving the Holidays


We all know that the upcoming holiday season can mean shopping, parties, and lots of stress, frustration, temper outbursts, but it can be so much more if you are already dealing with a mental illness such as anxiety, depression, bipolar, PTSD, Autism, or more.

If you have a mental  illness you are already close to the brink, and the additional stress of the holidays can actually cause you to go over and crash and burn.  But there


 are things you can do to prepare for the upcoming holidays.  I am going to give you some tips, but remember if you feel overly stressed please seek professional treatment.  Most patients cancel their counseling appointments because of other priorities, but I am asking you to make your mental health a priority in 2017.


  1. Self-Care:  If you are at a party and starting to feel off a little, excuse yourself and take a walk, do some deep breathing, go outside (with your coat).  
  2. Don’t forget to laugh and enjoy your family and friends.
  3. Keep to your routines: sleeping, regular meals, medication, appointments (counseling and medical), and find a support group for the additional support during this busy time of year.  Don’t forget your medications and don’t ignore the warning signs.
  4. Know that whatever you are feeling is right for you, but try not to let other people hurt you by their words.
  5. Talk to your family and friends about setting specific timings for family traditions: baking cookies, decorating the house, opening presents, etc.
  6. Make sure you set realistic goals and be flexible.  You may have emergencies come up and you need to roll with the punches.  Make lists of what needs to be done by specific dates and work on them each day until you are done with the list.
  7. Know your limits.  Make sure you don’t plan going to doctors and shopping and wrapping all in one day.  
  8. Don’t overschedule yourself or your family.
  9. Skip holiday toasts.
  10. Ask for help with holiday errands.  Do you have older children that can drive and shop?  Ask them to go to the store and get the things on your list.  Delegate cleaning chores, remember you don’t have to do everything yourself.

If you or someone you know is dealing with a mental illness or grief around this time of year be supportive and check in with them about if they need anything.  Seek professional help if more interventions are needed.  For further information please email me at darlacarmoneyllpc@gmail.com.

Diabetes Awareness Month

Since the last time I posted this, my T1D (Type 1 Diabetic) has turned 19 (almost 20) and she recently got married in July.  She still struggles with her diabetes, and as she is about to start thinking about starting a family I am concerned for not only her health but the baby’s health.  To think it has been 2 years since I originally posted this in response to an ad dealing with a soft drink.

Since November is Diabetes Awareness Month, so I am going to re-post about my life as the mother of a type I diabetic and help provide education so people can learn the difference between type I and type II.

I am a mother of a Type I Diabetic and the daughter of a Type II Diabetic and for the past seven years I have seen my daughter go from diagnosis to multiple hospital admissions for Diabetic Ketoacidosis, which includes high sugars and ketones to the point her body is acidosis. There are two types of diabetes: Type I is usually juvenile and insulin dependent and Type II is usually adult and non-insulin dependent but could lead to being on insulin.

Type I is where the pancreas quits working and because of this they need insulin injections in order to survive. The body does not PRODUCE insulin, which is a hormone that is needed to convert sugar, starches, and other food into energy.

Type II is a problem with your body that causes blood glucose (sugar) levels to rise higher than normal, most common form of diabetes and your body does not USE insulin properly.

Symptoms – Urinating often; feeling thirsty; feeling hungry; extreme fatigue; blurry vision; cuts and bruises not healing or slow to heal; weight loss (type 1); tingling, pain, and numbness in hands and feet (type 2).

My daughter did not get diabetes because I let her eat sugar, or drink pop or because of immunizations. Her pancreas quit working and it can be genetic. Since her diagnosis we have found out that, she has numerous aunts and uncles and cousins that are diabetic.

I have a beautiful type 1 diabetic that fights daily for her life, anything can cause her blood glucose to go dangerously high or even low and when it is low we have to give her COKE or PEPSI (to save her life) and when it is high we have to give her extra insulin. She was 10 when she was diagnosed and it was the roughest day of our lives so far, but during the past 7 (almost 10) years there have been numerous hospital stays, doctor appointments, glucose checks (4-8/day), injections (@ least 4/day), tears, laughter and hugs, there are days that she wants to just quit diabetes and days and nights that I wish I could take it from her, but we can’t…she FIGHTS DAILY…

She wasn’t overweight at diagnosis, didn’t drink a lot of pop or eat a lot of sugar, but her pancreas quit working as well, diabetes is an autoimmune disease and because of that she has to supplement insulin injections to live. The only reason I am posting is because education is a way to help ignorance and I want to educate people on my lovely daughter. I also have a wonderful type 2 diabetic mom, that was diagnosed about 10-15 years ago, a lot of her diagnosis is age, health, weight, eating and exercise habits.

Yes there is new research daily, but that is not always accurate for every diabetic whether it is type 1 or type 2…personally I would like to see type NONE…the only cure for my daughter is a pancreas transplant and that is not really a cure it is another option just like insulin…you may agree or disagree don’t really care, I am a mad momma and daughter and trying to explain my reality and a lot of parents reality…we get up in the morning wondering if our t1d will wake up, check their levels, give their insulin, check ketones (if bg is high), we do this at every meal or snack including physical activity…then we check again before they go to bed and some even check in the middle of the night or have our t1d sleep with us so we can check them ourselves while we try to sleep some…a lot of us have other children that can feel neglected or left out because we focus on this illness…

We go to work wondering about our children and hoping that they are okay at school, and even have fights or arguments with the schools when our kids are being mistreated or struggling to keep their levels adjusted and what happens if the child goes into DKA while at school, was told it was the parents responsibility to transport, not this momma made the ambulance take her because they were more equipped to handle her symptoms.

Our diabetics need care, compassion, understanding and assistance at times, not ridicule, blame, or jokes in bad taste aimed at them. I know that there have been some diabetics pass away due to the disease and we as parents try our hardest everyday to keep our children alive and well. Sometimes diabetics can get depressed, angry, and want to blame someone else and not do what they need to in order to live, we as parents, family, friends have to be there for them and help them find professional help if needed.

Yes, in Type 2 diabetes can be controlled with diet, exercise, and medication. Type 2 usually is related to weight and health, but not always. Type 1 cannot be controlled by diet and exercise. The children and adults with type 1 have little to no function in their pancreas, which is the organ that produces the insulin your body needs to properly use the nutrients from your food. Exercise, diet, and insulin injections and/or insulin pumps keep our children (adults) alive and healthy.

I know from personal experience as many parents to see their children in the ICU with numerous IVs in their arms and oxygen on and not being able to give them food or drink when they are hungry because that would make them sicker. I know how it is to have to hold a child as they are getting the IV in their arms and when they first learn of their diagnosis. I know how it is to fight with a teenager when they decide they do not want to do their insulin or eat correctly because they want to just have fun like their friends. I know how it is to wake up to find my child passed out in the middle of the floor, because her sugar level was 33 and you had to run and get the emergency insulin and call 911 to just wake her up and have her cry for you because she does not see you. I know how it feels to look at your child and your mother’s instincts tell you that she is either too low because she is falling asleep or she is too high because of her attitude. A lot of the parents with diabetic children know these things and I believe that we deserve respect and not false truths. I am not doing this to give Cross-fit more free press, but to provide education to those that want to confuse the two…UNTIL THERE IS A CURE AND A TYPE NONE, I WILL CONTINUE TO STAND BESIDE MY BEAUTIFUL TYPE 1 DIABETIC DAUGHTER AND DEFEND HER NO MATTER WHAT…

If you are depressed, angry, and have health issues, please seek professional help. I am always available for new clients. Until next time — BE WELL…

For more information please email me at darlacarmoneyllpc@gmail.com.